A few months ago, I decided to throw my hat into the ring for Millennial of the decade: I quit my job and moved back in with my parents in order to be able to create more. (Just another millennial with a podcast and an online business over here!) I wasn’t quite sure how it would all work itself out, but I felt an undeniable pull towards this path. Call it the universe reassuring me, call it kismet, call it God, but a strange sense of peace and excitement washed over me as I began to daydream about the possibilities for my future. Then, the other shoe dropped. I heard a little voice creeping into my head, and it began listing all the reasons my plan wouldn’t work out for me. It was a voice with which I am all too familiar. It has been with me in every major and minor decision of my life. In its familiar sadistic tone, the voice said, “Hey, sometimes it just doesn’t work out for some people. You can try all you want, but it just might not be in the cards for you.” “Maybe just keep your job and work on your business when you have downtime?” “Aren’t you sick of being broke?” I found every one of these counterpoints to be valid and, consequently, difficult to dismiss.
Step 1: Don’t choose sides
Life is a balancing act. If we venture too far to either side, we will inevitably reach an unhealthy result. If we allow ourselves to get sucked into the black hole of worry, it becomes difficult to get anything done. However, if we go to the other end of the spectrum and completely dismiss our worries and fears before confronting them, all we’re doing is repressing our feelings. The trick is to listen to what each side has to say. Odds are both have valid points. Allow your inner dreamer to dream freely without the pessimistic side butting in to interject unhelpful remarks. Then (at a separate time) allow your worries to voice their opinion. Both are parts of you, so in order to be your authentic self, you must honor your complete self.